Why are men still more successful than woman? This question seems to follow me wherever I go. Of course there are so many successful women. But still the number of people in leadership positions and on top income positions is a lot higher than the number of women on that list. Recently I heared somebody say that for every 1000 female speakers, there is only one female speaker “making it” in the industry. And even though this number seems very high, I definitely know that this is a male dominated industry. I also heared crazy numbers regarding the success in network marketing companies. About 80% of people are working in this business. Yet the top earners and top leaders are men. How can this be?
Over the past years I have taught and coached many successful people, and many people on their way to success. Men and women. Many of them I’ve had the privilege to get to know very well. What’s the biggest difference between those who are very successful and those who are not? Well, it definately has nothing to do with all of their gender. Yes, women tend to slow down in their careers more than the moment they start a family. But that’s not the real reason why more men are in higher positions. One thing that has been done is more and more. What is my greatest observation? And for some reason men seem to have more than it women.
Women seem to battle more with people than they think. But the truth is: We all fight these fights. Horses and thoughts. So again, in my observation it’s not about gender, but all about self confidence.
So what can we do to become more confident? Will reading this article help you with that? As much as I wish it would, I’m afraid it won’t. Will this topic help you with this? Most likely not. But you probably find some great inspirations in these books and articles about what you have to do. But yes, you have read this right. It’s not about what you read, it’s about what you DO! They key word here is DO! Self-confidence doesn’t come from reading, it comes from doing. What specificly can you do? Are you really willing to do what it takes to get confident? Yes? Then do the things that scare you. Is this easy? No. But very simple. If it scores you or makes you nervous to talk to strangers, is the fastest way to get it? Scared to present in front of an audience? Do it! You don’t have the confidence to ask for help? You know what to do. As Nike has just said: Just do it. Yes, it’s super scary and hard. But it works.
Just a friend of mine said to me, “I admire how you do all the things that you do without even being scared.” But the truth is, I am scared all the time. I just do it anyway. And next time I do it, it’s still scary, but not as much as it was before. I want to be confident doing it.
This seems to be a little overwhelmling? Relax. You don’t have to figure it out at once. Just take it one step at a time. One conversation at a time. One little thing that scares you at a time. That’s all that matters. If you keep doing those little things, I promise you, success and with confidence to show up.
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